In today’s article, we are going to talk about a very interesting topic: how and why a super empath can destroy a narcissist.
There’s nothing a narcissist loves more than an empath. What’s not to like? Their good nature makes them willing to believe everyone is good-natured and of equal value, sharing the same kindness. They want to help people in need, especially those who are vulnerable—or at least appear vulnerable.
The narcissist’s perfectly crafted tragic backstory, filled with stories of them being a victim, will make the empaths rush in to help. Their seemingly friendly and non-judgmental nature will make an empath feel like they can confide in them and trust them with their secrets. All of this makes them easy prey for narcissists.
If you are an empath who feels you might have a narcissist manipulating you and you’re wondering if you have what it takes to destroy a narcissist’s ego, keep reading! Because today’s great psychological topic is: how and why a super empath can destroy a narcissist!
#1. Their intuition can detect manipulations.
Empaths, especially super empaths, are often misunderstood and underestimated. Because they are kind, trusting, and see the good in people, others might think they’re weak, naïve, or easy to fool. And yes, empaths can sometimes believe lies at first because they want to believe the best in everyone. This can make them an easy target for narcissists early on.
But empaths are also very intuitive. They can sense when something feels off and notice patterns faster than most people. Super empaths are especially good at picking up on emotions and hidden motives. So when they start to feel negative or harmful energy—something very different from their own peaceful nature—they know something’s wrong.
Narcissists usually can’t keep pretending to be kind or loving for long. They try to quickly make their partner depend on them. But empaths aren’t as easy to fool as they might seem. It may take a little time for them to fully see through the lies, but once the narcissist starts slipping up, the empath catches on.
#2. They often have a core identity and high levels of self-worth.
Super empaths have strong self-esteem, know their worth, and have a clear sense of who they are. If you’ve ever wondered why it’s important to have a strong identity—because it can seem a little vague—this example will help make it clear.
Narcissists often use a trick called gaslighting to control people. The term comes from a 1944 movie called Gaslight. In the movie, a husband slowly makes his wife believe she’s going crazy by secretly dimming the gas lights in their home and then denying it when she notices. Over time, she starts to question her own mind and loses confidence in herself.
Now, imagine if the wife had strong self-esteem and a solid sense of self. She might have thought, “Wait, I’ve never hallucinated before—why would I start now?” She probably would’ve told her husband he’s the one with the problem and insisted the lights be fixed.
That’s the power of knowing yourself. A super empath who knows their own mind doesn’t fall for lies like that. Even when someone is trying to convince them they’re wrong or crazy, they stay grounded. And because they’re both deeply caring and confident, they can actually confuse the narcissist. Their empathy gives the narcissist the attention they want, but their strong sense of self makes them hard to control—sometimes even turning the tables on the narcissist.
#3. Empaths listen carefully and remember the small details.
Narcissists are, well, full of themselves. They usually think they’re the smartest person in the room and the only one who really remembers or understands anything important. And yes, most people don’t always pay close attention to every little detail—but narcissists take it to another level. They rarely remember or care about the good things in your life.
If you share something positive you’ve done, they’ll either ignore it, downplay it, or forget it completely. What they do remember is every little mistake or flaw you’ve ever shown. They hold onto those moments like trophies.
Super empaths are different. They actually listen, and they care. Even if the narcissist shares something emotional—twisted with lies or not—the empath listens closely and remembers it all: the good and the bad.
Narcissists often use your mistakes to guilt-trip or emotionally blackmail you. But they tend to forget small but important facts, like names or details, because they weren’t really paying attention. That can make them look unreliable or fake.
Meanwhile, a super empath remembers everything the narcissist said. When the time is right, they can use those facts to stand their ground and flip the script. This can embarrass the narcissist—something they absolutely hate.
Super empaths don’t like hurting others, but if they have to protect themselves or stop the abuse, they’ll do what’s needed—even if it means hitting the narcissist where it hurts most: their ego.
#4. Empaths have cognitive and affective empathy.
Unlike narcissists—who have very little emotional empathy (the ability to truly feel for others), but can fake understanding with logical or “cognitive” empathy—super empaths have both. They can truly feel what others feel and understand what’s going on in someone’s mind.
Super empaths can use their past experiences with narcissists to their advantage. They’ve seen those rare moments when the narcissist showed real vulnerability, and they remember how it felt. They can also sense when the narcissist’s emotions are shifting—like when they’re about to lose their cool, feel ashamed, or get angry.
Even though super empaths don’t usually use their empathy to manipulate others, sometimes it’s the only thing that can truly throw a narcissist off balance. That’s because empathy is something a narcissist will never truly have—no matter how hard they try.
#5. Super empaths are unsuspecting.
As we’ve said before, empaths—especially super empaths—can seem sweet, gentle, and even a little naive at first. Because of this, narcissists often think they’ll be easy to control or take advantage of. They usually enter the relationship thinking they’ll be the one to break the empath.
But empaths don’t take being mistreated lightly. They’re caring, forgiving, and patient—until someone crosses a line. Once that happens, they’re not afraid to fight back and give the narcissist a taste of their own medicine. They’ve learned from watching the narcissist, after all.
Super empaths are direct and honest. They don’t play mind games or waste time pretending. If a narcissist tries to scare them into silence—like threatening to expose secrets—the super empath might just reveal those secrets themselves first. They take the power right out of the narcissist’s hands.
Even though empaths feel things deeply, including shame and guilt, they won’t let those feelings stop them from standing up for themselves. And when they do, it can completely shake and even destroy the narcissist.
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