We all got the chance to see the beautiful sights of the world because God let us, and our parents accept such responsibility. However, we are not free to choose who will be our parents, and that is the most crucial thing as we grow up and uncover what lies beyond the beauty of this world.
The following are the toxic things that narcissistic parents say to their children:
10. YOU ARE OVERLY SENSITIVE.
Gaslighting phrases are used by the narcissistic parent to ignore your feelings, especially when the latter hurts you. They refuse to accept responsibility for their conduct or for expressing damaging remarks. In fact, they will seize control of your mind and say things to you that imply there is nothing wrong with their actions and that it is you, the child, who has done something wrong. Because they are self-centered, it’s simple for them to do so. They’re unconcerned about how their children will react in that situation. Children need guidance, which they’ll never provide since they are too preoccupied with their own desires and welfare.
9. DON’T BE TOO DRAMATIC.
Because children are too honest with their feelings, they cry uncontrollably until the pain is gone. A typical parent will console them, but a narcissistic parent will exploit their children’s emotions to create drama and confusion. Thus, they can reverse the situation and place the responsibility on their children. Instead of recognizing that their child is in pain, they’ll tell them that they are simply overreacting to the incident. A narcissistic parent will avoid taking responsibility for their child’s abuse. For this reason, if a child is crying because of something their parent has said, a narcissistic parent will dismiss it. They’ll make you believe that your emotions and reactions are not valid and never will be.
8. YOU ARE SUCH AN UNGRATEFUL PERSON.
Narcissistic parents are always victims of whatever incident there is. They’ll accuse you of things you did not do. In fact, they will accuse you of being ungrateful on the grounds that you are simply expressing your feelings as a result of their abusive actions. Some will give you the silent treatment and leave you wondering what went wrong. Narcissistic parents are simply looking for someone to blame since they have already abused someone. They’ll never admit to being furious, but their actions suggest something that contradicts their claims. They are simply making you feel guilty and regretful. These are the tactics of narcissistic parents to avoid responsibility for their conduct. Thus, you must remember that you are simply doing the right thing by choosing to recognize the discomfort rather than becoming numb.
7. THAT IS SOMETHING I NEVER SAID.
Narcissists are notorious for their denial; they would never admit to being responsible for their abusive behavior. In fact, they’ll go to any extent to blame their children. “I never said that,” they will constantly say to you and the people around you. As a result, the children will be unsure of what they told their parents because the truth is frequently skewed to the abuser’s advantage. If you have witnessed such circumstances, let them convey their pain and feelings to you because children always speak the truth. It’s the simplest thing you can do to help them.
6. I’M ONLY TRYING MY BEST TO HELP YOU.
Narcissistic parents will always be full of themselves. They believe that what they do benefits others, but in fact, they do it to boost their egos. They will use the aforementioned words to justify themselves. Parents know what is best for their children, but this is not always the case. Toxic parents will never hear the side of their children; thus, they will never understand how their children feel. It’s because narcissists acknowledge their feelings of being insulted when their children ignore their advice before empathizing with the latter.
5. YOU ARE SO SELF-CENTERED.
Narcissistic parents will often accuse their children. In fact, they will tell them that they are selfish, but this character only reflects their actions and not their children. They are just saying these things because their children do not agree with them. It damages their pride because their children are striving to become independent and no longer rely on them. They are just trying to make you feel guilty for not listening to them. However, keep in mind that it is okay to hear them out, but they cannot force you to do things that are unreasonable. Things work out if both sides of the narrative are considered rather than when only one person makes the decision.
4. THIS WILL NEVER WORK OUT.
The aforementioned words are told by narcissistic parents to make their children feel as if they are wasting their time if they do not obey their parents. Narcissistic parents are continually trying to exert control over their children’s lives. They’re doing this for themselves, not for their children. In fact, they only anticipate victory and avoid experiencing setbacks. They want to claim credit for their children’s achievements. Toxic parents have complete control over their children’s lives and are extremely ambitious. It’s true that their children need them to achieve success, but it does not necessarily mean that they should take over the lives of their children.
3. YOU ARE WORTHLESS.
Narcissistic parents will always make you feel you are never enough. As a result, you’ll begin to doubt yourself because you’re always giving it your all. It’s as if they’re putting constant pressure on you. You continuously strive to be the best, but your efforts are never recognized, and your efforts are wasted. You always want their validation because you love your parents. It will only complement other individuals while putting you down. In this way, you will do better. They are notorious for setting high expectations. They expect you to be the best at everything, and if that does not happen, they will regard you as worthless and make you feel stupid. You should never normalize this because this is not true. You know yourself better than anyone else.
2. WHO DO YOU THINK YOU ARE?
Narcissistic parents will never acknowledge you as an important person in their lives because only themselves matter to them. They will always tell you that they can’t make it, even if that is a milestone life event. They will constantly come up with excuses to skip big events. If you will negatively react to this, they will just tell you, “Who do you think you are?” This is really unpleasant to hear from your parents, especially if you are trying your hardest to make things work. It will have a huge impact on your life perspective. The way they act will never be justified because your parents have a special place in your life. However, they have chosen to escape from their responsibilities. Parenting is crucial to the growth and development of a child; thus, children must be guided along the way until they reach their heart’s desires.
1. YOU NEVER LEARN YOUR LESSON.
Narcissistic parents will say everything to take control of their children’s lives. They will put the blame on their children as if the latter does not know how to behave, and they never learn their lesson. In fact, they always want you to become an obedient little dog at all times. They are very idealistic because they already make the world for you without considering what you really want in life. It is because they never truly understand you, but they act like they know everything. You’re not a robot, but a human with his or her own mind and heart. Thus, you have to acknowledge how you feel and the struggles you have to keep up with life. You are learning in the process, and you should never doubt that. The experiences will hone you to become better and ready to face the hurdles in the reality of life.
Life is too short to spend it questioning everything since you will not find fulfillment in the process. Parents’ love is unconditional, but this isn’t always the case because you could end up with individuals who constantly doubt your worth. Keep in mind that there will always be a glimmer of hope after the tunnel of darkness. Have you ever thought about why narcissists act and think the way they do? Do you think that a narcissistic person will always remain that way? Tell us your thoughts in the comments below.
Read More: 10 Signs You’re Dealing With Narcissistic Abuse.
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